The challenge, when you have an idea, to bring it to fruition, or to shift your energy to create a new circumstance is always about ‘staying the course’. In sailing this has to do with coordinates, latitude and longitude so that you know where you are at any given moment in the vastness of the Ocean. In relationship it means not getting thrown off your own truth in relation to another, be it a beloved, a friend, a colleague or a business partner. In business it means allowing the idea to bloom to expand to stretch and grow and find its way to land fully, sustainably with the exact right conditions for its blossoming.
So what happens when you do your best and things still fall apart? Or are they simply shifting. When a relationship ends, it does not mean there was not a journey there or some deeper growing that occurred just because it changed, ended or you just parted ways. This is often not so easy to see in the midst of the shift. There is emotion, regret, sadness, even with the certainty that it is right. Sometimes, a feeling that the pain of the familiar is better than the the complete unknown of ‘ What the bleep do I do now?’ ‘How will I manage, what if I can’t?’ What is being called for at this time is Simplicity in action, Kindness to yourself, and Time to get your bearings. That formula right there is how you stay the course in the midst of relationship upheaval or a major life shift, like moving to a new place or leaving anything that once was.
We are so busy trying to get somewhere, it is crucial to be as fully present as you can in the circumstances you have; whatever is showing up is really important and is illuminating patterns, habits and tendencies we might miss the opportunity to understand. So stay with it, whatever the emotion is, the feeling of it, there is no fast action solution to moving through major change.
Kindness to yourself. Simplicity, just do what is in front of you as simply as you can, eat, sleep, take a walk, a bath, make tea. Time to see what your next move is going to be in the context of intentionally accepting fully with love who you are is invaluable.
What this allows is a clearer ground to manifest from, perhaps free of a repeat scenario or a default positioning. Imagine if you could transcend your habits to get more directly and easily to where you really want to be, to the life you fully wish for and desire. What would that feel like? Who would you be to stand there? What would you choose to do? Who who would you choose to be?
Ana